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sins & repentence

December 29, 2006

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Question:

In the past, I’ve had a very dark side of me that I’ve hidden (Allah knows). That it keeps bothering me, and that day to day I keep thinking to myself.. why do I keep doing it? I have that same feeling. I know that it may be ‘sinful’ or ‘haram’/’makruh’ but because I have continued on, I feel less… in faith. I feel like as if Allah will never forgive me unless I did a thousand prayers in one night. Sometimes I even say to myself, “Why stop now? I’m probably going to hell anyways.” So I am LOST and I want to be a practicing Muslim, but how do I STOP this other side of me???

How do I stop this addiction of smoking  and other stuff? I want out!

I know I have heard that, “Allah will forgive you even if you have sinned as much as the foam of the seas.” BUT to me… I think not…

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jannah: 

about your dark side… believe me Allah knows about it… knows your every move and intention and secret thought and is closer to you than the blood in your veins. He knows so it’s not really a dark side, it’s just part of being human and being a struggling muslim.

and we know Allah is MOST compassionate, MOST forgiving, MOST merciful, so how can we doubt His Mercy? and His own Words that say His forgiveness is the breadth from the heavens to the earth. He doesn’t expect everyone to be perfect and loves people that come back to Him. So let’s not say ‘oh He’ll never forgive me’ cause then we’re acting like Allah astaghfirullah, it’s His decision to forgive, not ours.

So take the time to acknowledge everything and ask Allah for forgiveness, ESPECIALLY today or tomorrow inshaAllah.

once you acknowledge your sins and shortcomings with Allah, start trying to do some good deeds. if u can’t stop doing those bad things right now, for every bad deed or thing you do follow it up with a good one and perhaps in time the barakah of that will help you overcome it.  and yes i feel the same way about the masjid!! always makes me feel good so try to go there more often.

good luck inshallah
 


Siham:Allah created us and knows us better than we do. He knows we are weak and prone to temptation and sinning. Scholars say that sometimes Allah tests us with a certain sin so that we can run into His arms and make sincere repentance. Sometimes people live all their lives living aimlessly, without comitting any major sins. But when they do, they remember Allah and run back to Him. Sometimes Allah gives us problems so that we can turn to Him and say O’ Allah help us, because He has missed our voices of supplication. Everything happens for a reason and good things can happen from bad outcomes.Allah is the most merciful the most kind, he forgives only if we sincerely repent. But if we keep repeating the sin then who knows, it might be too late to repent, and then we will have earned Allah’s wrath.

What we must bear in mind is that by giving into our temptations we are becoming soliders of the devil. Harsh it may seem, but true. Why? Because once he whispers an evil deed into our selves, then we rush to do it with no self control.

This is why we must try our best to remember the plan of the devil, and the laughter and satisfaction he has when we actually give in and commit a sin, imagine, he goes and tells all the other devils he works with that he made you fall and they all laugh and say yes that person is so weak, of course he failed. This in itself should make you want to quit sinning.

But I know it is not enough and the devil makes us justify sins, which is why we end up doing them again, even if we had repented a few hours before.

I think at this point it means Allah is telling us we need an intensive self-renewal course. We need to evaluate ourselves deeply. What do I want to be in a few months? In a few years? Do I want to be on this same sinnng path? It doesn’t make me happy, in fact it makes me feel guilty and dreadful, but it’s a vicious cycle that keeps repeating itself.

The answer is to try to break this vicious cycle. The devil may have a plan, but so do you and you have Allah on your side.

Take on an active role to improve yourself, with the aim to taste pure faith. Reach this state of faith and you will no longer worry about sinning, as you will have broken the cycle.

To start, here are some simple steps:

1) Start with your intentions that you will improve yourself from today – this means you are actually repenting sincerely to Allah. There are three conditions to repentence: (I) you have to really mean it (II) you have to stop doing the sin (III) you should never do it again. If you do these three points then you have actually sincerelly repented.

2) Start each day with the fajr prayer and make loads of du’aa for Allah to strengthen you against your weaknesses. Remember that Allah will test all Muslims severely because Jannah has to be earned.

3) Pray on time and try to pray in congregation, even if at home with your family. Try to visit the mosque every once in a while and pray in congregation, as this helps one’s faith.

4) Fill your time with useful activities. Learn something new, take up a sport or activity that makes you feel great. Think about developing yourself personally and professionally. Look at the state of our Ummah, we need Muslims to have self-control in order to be successful and raise the status of the Ummah high.

5) After each prayer, make a lot of supplication and thikr. Have Allah on your mind at all times, it will be hard at first, but aim to try to remember Allah at all times. Practice the sunnah of the Prophet(Peace Be Upon Him), if you pray five times a day on time, try to increase sunnah prayers as Allah loves those who perform voluntary worship. Gradually improve yourself, do not do it fast, and always be moderate in worship as the Prophet(Peace Be Upon Him) said.

6) Read about Islam, increase your knowledge as Allah has asked us too. Watch the film “the message” which is about the Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him), to see how much he struggled for us to have this beautiful religion, hopefully this will strengthen your faith.

7) have good friends who forbid the wrong and enjoin the right. Having friends that tempt you to do bad things will not help you at all.

8) Keep a chart of the days you have not sinned and give yourself a tick! Reward yourself with something you like, pamper yourself for being good!

9) If you have sinned, then immediately repent, do not give up, and perform a good deed, like giving charity, as good deeds erase bad ones as Allah has told us.

We all have our own bad deeds, whether it be by eating things the doctor told you not to, to other stuff, no human is perfect, however the key is in achieving freedom from our desires and the whispers of the devil.

I pray that these points are helpful insha’Allah. please let us know how you are doing on your path to self-improvement to break free from the chains of the devil and sins and to escape into the pure, beautiful light of faith that Allah invites us too. It’s all down to us at the end of the day, it’s our free will, so we should try our best to use it wisely before we meet Allah.

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DESIDERATA by Max Ehrmann

October 1, 2006

Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.

Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs;
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful.
Strive to be happy.

Max Ehrmann, Desiderata, Copyright 1952.

must you be masters of the world?

June 26, 2006

It was Lucius, the ambitious staff centurion of the Roman general Marcellus who visited Archimedes to lure him over from the Greeks to work for the Romans. To disarm the great man, Lucius applauded the catapults and mirrors built on his design. Had it not been for these ingenious weapons, Syracuse would have fallen in a month instead of the two years that it took to repel the Roman armada. He conveyed the high regard that his fellow warriors had for the ingenuity of the weapon, in a manner of camaraderie that is shown by retired officers from both sides of the Indo-Pak border when they meet for their powwows.

Archimedes brushed aside the congratulations and responded that what he had come up with were ordinary mechanisms for throwing projectiles — mere toys. They were of no great importance from a scientific point of view, he said. Here the similarity ends with the nuke weapons designers. These proud makers of weapons of mass destruction lapped up the praise that their countries showered on them, although their bombs also largely required engineering competence, and not any significant advance in science.

Why should he join the Romans, asked Archimedes? Because he lived in Sicily, of which Syracuse was a city state, and the Roman wanted to occupy Sicily, said Lucius. But why Sicily, he enquired. To which came the condescending reply, that the Roman wanted to be the masters of the Mediterranean, and whoever was the master of that would be the master of the world. What follows is a paraphrase of an account of the exchange, I read, between these two.

And must you be masters of the world?’ asked Archimedes.

‘Rome’s mission is to become that, and it is going to achieve its goal’.

‘Possibly, but I wouldn’t advise it, Lucius. To be the master of the world you are going to have an awful lot of defending to do. That’s going to be very troublesome.’

‘That doesn’t matter as we shall have a great Empire.’

‘If I draw a small circle or a large circle, it’s still a circle. But a larger circle acquires a large frontier that needs to be defended.’

‘You are juggling with arguments, Archimedes. We have got to be stronger than anyone else in the world.’

‘Why?’ asked Archimedes.

‘To keep our position. The stronger we are, the more enemies we get. And to guard against them we need to be the strongest.’

‘But to guard your strength you have to expend a lot of it merely defending it. Then one day it will all become too much.’

Getting a bit tired of this philosophising, Lucius repeated his bait about Archimedes being invited to build the strongest war machine for the Romans. ‘That a man like you would want to acquire mastery over the world.’

‘You mustn’t be offended, but I’ve something more important here. Something more lasting.’

‘What’s that?’

‘It’s the method of calculating the area of a segment of a circle!’

That’s a lesson that leaders, military and civilian, as well as the people need to learn. It is such distilled truth that our great writers need to get across to us so that it can be truly internalised instead of the noise that so often fills the media.

The author is a physicist and environmentalist with an interest in education, information and science policy. Email: daudpota @gmail.com


Demolishing circles of domination

Q Isa Daudpota

Demolishing circles of domination

Do not despair

May 28, 2006

The blogs: muslims-r-us and Day in the life of muslim kidz have most of what I had wanted to collect in this blog of mine. Hence I will not be adding much to my blog, unless I get an inspiration.

Like today, when I was thinking of quiting. I have thought a lot about it, and even quit at times, but I have always been brought back by Allah’s Mercy. This time I thought I should really give up for good, now that I am older and weaker and with even less sight and more impaired hearing. There seems no point in torturing myself with mistakes I make and them worrying about the consequences. But through muslims-r-us I have again been led to:

hidayaonline

where I read this:

The art of beseeching Allah (swt)

Subhanallah, whatever I have been able to do and pass the time in this world has been entirely due to Allah’s Mercy, not due to any capabilities that I had. And yet here I was ready to give up. Rabbighfirlee.

So, back to the grindstone, or rather Allah’s rahmah 🙂

Muslims-R-US and Day in the life of muslim kidz

May 28, 2006

The blogs: muslims-r-us and Day in the life of muslim kidz have most of what I had wanted to collect in this blog of mine. Hence I will not be adding much to my blog, unless I get an inspiration.

Like today, when I was thinking of quiting. I have thought a lot about it, and even quit at times, but I have always been brought back by Allah’s Mercy. This time I thought I should really give up for good, now that I am older and weaker and with even less sight and more impaired hearing. There seems no point in torturing myself with mistakes I make and them worrying about the consequences. But through muslims-r-us I have again been led to:

hidayaonline

where I read this:

The art of beseeching Allah (swt)

Subhanallah, whatever I have been able to do and pass the time in this world has been entirely due to Allah’s Mercy, not due to any capabilities that I had. And yet here I was ready to give up. Rabbighfirlee.

So, back to the grindstone, or rather Allah’s rahmah 🙂